You don’t need to “manage” your emotions; instead, let your body finish what it started. This is where emotional freedom begins.

Hi love,

I want to share something with you today that changed my own healing journey (which I call Integration or Re-membering), and that I see over and over happening with the people I work/journey with.

Most people I spoke to about emotions, or I heard/read talking about it believe their emotional overwhelm, shutdown, or reactivity is a mindset issue.
Something to control or to fix or to “rise above” or manage. And some use the same term I like: regulate with the meaning of control.

But your emotional patterns are not moral failures, they’re certainly not signs that you're broken, weak, needing to be fixed or anything like that.
And they’re definitely not evidence that you’re “too sensitive.”

They are incomplete stress cycles living in your nervous system. And believe me when I say, they are great, in whatever shape they come. Contrary to some myth, one can NOT die of feeling an emotion, but from suppressing or resisting it, yes, the avoiding of completing a cycle can cause cardiac issues, digestive and perpertuate illnesses.  

Once you understand this, everything — truly, everything — begins to shift. The last drop that brought a breakthrough for me was truly the connection of stress cycles and emotions. 

The Truth About Stress Cycles (That No One Taught Us)

Every emotion your body experiences is meant to move through a natural cycle:

Activation → Mobilization → Expression → Completion → Return to safety

and this could happen in seconds if we could flow them freely, organically, literally: physiologically! 

But most of us were raised in environments where emotion wasn’t safe, intimacy wasn’t modelled, boundaries weren’t honoured, or our tenderness was too overwhelming for the adults around us.

 I don't know about you, but I grew up in the 80s and 90s, and when I looked for attention, I was either directed to a TV screen or I would find their attention on a TV. And that emotional neglect also affected my way to process my own emotions, it taught me that when I don't want to sit with an emotional cycle, I can avoid it by watching others living the embodiment of their character's emotions - welcome to Latin telenovelas!!  But watching someone embodying their emotions may feel great because it mimics what our nervous system, our tribal being, is designed to do, to witness each other completing our own emotional cycle, to be witnessed in safety while expressing our emotions. 

The opposite of it was in my upbringing of other people that shared with me or that I saw growing up in the 90s, 2000s, and to today. I was told that I'm too much when I have an intense emotion, too dramatic, too vulgar, too aggressive (just for being angry, not even acting on it). There are so many dress codes: "boys don't cry", "here is not the time and the place for it" - as if there was ever a place for it!! Or "good students don't behave like this", "you are exaggerating", "it is not that bad", "it is not that funny", "this is unnecessary", "don't cry for her/him" or simply "don't cry". "Here, look at this funny something", "if you stop crying, I will give you this thing", "forget it and move on"......the list goes on and on in how I see our emotions being suppressed, repressed, compressed, controlled, managed, manipulated...

So those cycles never finished.

Instead, the body learned to hold:

• tension that never got to release

• fear that never found resolution

• rage that never had permission

• sadness or grief that never had a witness

• pleasure that never felt safe

And the nervous system adapted — brilliantly, creatively, lovingly — to keep you alive.

Not open.
Not expressive.
Not intimate.
Just… surviving.

But survival is not the same as living.
And it’s definitely not the same as thriving emotionally or sexually.

(Emotions and sex are deeply connected in the nervous system lenses.)

 Why This Matters for Your Emotional Regulation?

When stress cycles stay incomplete, the body can’t return to baseline.
You might notice:

• shutting down when emotions rise

• going numb during conflict or intimacy

• feeling everything “too much”

• looping in overthinking or self-blame

• difficulty staying present in your body

• exhaustion that doesn’t match your day

These signs are just to mention a few, and they are not symptoms of illnesses; they are signs of incomplete stress cycles that can also hinder our sleep, our capacity to be in social connection, our tolerance to our friends' presence and more.

What it is not: It’s not “attachment issues.” It is not some silly victimism letters that we pathologise ourselves to feel belonging to identities instead of going deep and feeling the suppressed emotions of a lifetime.
It’s not a personality flaw either.

Your body is simply trying to complete what it never got to finish. On a biological, non-story-based, nervous system perspective, you just need to complete your emotional cycles!! That simple!

And once you understand how that works, emotional regulation stops feeling like a battle and becomes a biological process you can support. 

Why This Matters for Your Sexuality

Your erotic body is a direct extension of your nervous system.

If your system doesn’t feel safe:

• pleasure feels overwhelming

• desire collapses

• orgasm becomes difficult

• boundaries blur

• intimacy feels threatening

• connection feels draining

Sexual thriving isn’t about “techniques.”
It’s about safety. Which is a direct result of completing our stress/emotional cycles.
Your body must trust itself first.

When stress cycles are completed, your body naturally opens:
to sensation,
to pleasure,
to connection,
to truth.

This is why emotional liberation and sexual liberation are always intertwined.

 If This Resonates… I Made Something For You

I recently released a complete workshop on Emotional Release & Liberation, where I teach you:

• how stress cycles actually work in the body

• how to recognize your own patterns

• what emotional repression vs. emotional overwhelm really are

• how to return to your centre without bypassing or collapsing

• two guided somatic practices to help you complete cycles safely while witnessing me going raw on my own during the demos, so that aspect of tribal beings witnessing safely each other completing our emotions can be restored. 

• how emotional fluidity directly supports sexual thriving

It includes a step-by-step PDF practice guide, the full 90-minute workshop, and the exact tools I use in my own body and with clients. Watch as many times as you need, practicing alongside, taking notes, revisiting, at your own pace.

This is yours for lifetime access, a tool you may use again and again, I use very often, especially during gathering seasons when we can get triggered more easily by those we love so much.

I priced it at $29 on purpose so that this work is accessible, sustainable, and immediately supportive for anyone who needs it.

If you’ve been craving emotional clarity, deeper embodiment, or safer connection with yourself, this is your next step.

👉 Get instant access to the Emotional Release & Liberation Workshop

Your body already knows how to heal.
This workshop simply teaches you how to listen.

With love,
Eman